Both being single and married are good
Life question 1. Is there only one soul mate? A common definition of a soul mate is your perfect life partner. We will answer this and other key questions.
If you find yourself opening up easily and sharing secrets you’ve never told anyone else, it’s a good sign you are connecting on a deeper level. When you can easily share all of your shame, fears, desires, and fantasies, you may have met your match.
However the bible does not suggest that there is only person that fits this description.
Adam was the only person who ever just woke up and saw the perfect woman next to him. God has not done that for anyone else. The bible uses language like “Abraham took a wife”, “Judah took a wife”. See Gen 25:1; 38:2. There is no record in the bible, New or Old Testament, of anyone “waiting upon God” to send that perfect person into their life. The precedent that the bible sets is that of men going out and finding their wives.
There are only two examples of God telling people whom to marry – Hosea and Joseph. God told Joseph to marry Mary, mainly to facilitate his plan of redemption. But note that Joseph was already betrothed to Mary, so they had actually already met and fallen in love, long before God spoke to him. The case of Hosea was for the specific purpose of communicating a prophesy to Israel. But note that God actually never told Hosea to marry Gomer specifically. He told him to marry one of the prostitutes. Hosea then chose Gomer. (Hosea 1:2,3). This is noteworthy because even in the case of Hosea, God gave him choices.
The normal way God works regarding marriage is to give people choices and allow them to choose. He does not choose for us.
Instead the Bible suggests that you both “die to self” crucifying selfishness and live for each other; guided in each step by His holy Spirit. Amos 3:3 Ephesians 5:21
Can love really last a lifetime? Absolutely yes, but you will have to throw out the fairy tale of living happily ever after. A team of scientists found that romantic love involves chemical changes in the brain that last 12 to 18 months.
Stage 1: Lust
Lust is driven by the sex hormones testosterone and oestrogen. Testosterone is not confined only to men. It has also been shown to play a major role in the sex drive of women. These hormones as Helen Fisher says “get you out looking for anything”.
Stage 2: Attraction
This is the truly love-struck phase. When people fall in love they can think of nothing else. They might even lose their appetite and need less sleep, preferring to spend hours at a time daydreaming about their new lover.
In the attraction stage, a group of neuro-transmitters called ‘monoamines’ play an important role. These include : Dopamine, Norepinephrine (adrenalin) and Serotonin
Couples might find it helpful to receive some insight into their partners’ preferred love language.
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Stage 3: Attachment
This is what takes over after the attraction stage, if a relationship is going to last. People couldn’t possibly stay in the attraction stage forever, otherwise they’d never get any work done!
Attachment is a longer lasting commitment and is the bond that keeps couples together when they go on to have children. Important in this stage are two hormones, oxytocin and vasopressin, released by the nervous system, which are thought to play a role in social attachments.
We recognise four types of love:
Storge is the love that parents naturally feel for their children
Phileo love refers to a platonic love.
Eros is an emotional and sexual love
Agape love is an unconditional love that sees beyond the outer surface and accepts the recipient for whom he/she is, regardless of their flaws, shortcomings or faults.
Therefore, the love that is eternal is a choice not a feeling.
Unfortunately, most of us will find agape love challenging where your spouse does not appear to make the same efforts as yourself. This is where faith has a role to play. Faith says that I believe that if I continue to do good for long enough, I will reap the rewards and I will rely on the strength and the grace that God supplies to see me through the dark and lonely times. Relationships can often be managed better and we should study this subject more. You might want to start with the best seller:”The five love languages” by a marriage counsellor named Gary Chapman. Remember that Christian marriage counselling may also be available locally.
In the bible see: 1 Corinthians 13:4-11
Life question 2. If humans evolved from apes, why do we still have apes?
“First, evolutionists strongly deny the idea that men came from the apes. They insist that both man and the apes came from a hypothetical ape-like ancestor, the evidence for which has not yet been discovered.
Secondly, evolution does not propose that all members of a type evolved into another type, but that only a small group of individuals, genetically isolated from the others, evolved, leaving the others to remain the same.
A perceptive person will recognize that both of these points are nothing more than story telling. The hypothetical ape-like ancestor does not exist, and there is no evidence that it ever did. The “peripheral isolates” claim may sound reasonable, and there are recent examples of isolated groups acquiring new traits through adaptation, but none of any group acquired new suites of functioning genes through random mutation, such as production of either an ape or a man from an ape-like ancestor would require.
Instead of asking why we still have apes, we should be asking why don’t we have the hypothetical ape-like ancestor, the real missing link? Or, why don’t we have the required intermediate forms? How can such change happen? The claim that transitional individuals were few in number, and thus unlikely to be fossilized and discovered, rings hollow. The fact is, we don’t have them! The evolution claims are only stories. In their story, man and apes diverged from the imaginary ancestor some seven million years ago. Surely some would be fossilized.” Each “missing link” ape/man has proved to be false or a lie.
“We should also ask, how could such a transition happen? The only way we know to acquire new genes is to alter existing genes through random mutation. The best alteration science has observed has produced only novel recombinations — most deteriorate the genetic information and thus harm the offspring. Many mutations are fatal. Evolution requires trillions of innovative mutations to produce man from lower forms, and at least millions to produce man or apes from an ape-like ancestor. None have been observed.
Evolution tales are pseudo-scientific stories about an imaginary history. Evolution is best understood as an anti-God origins myth, attempting to explain man’s existence without a Creator. “
*Dr. John D. Morris is the President of the Institute for Creation Research. Cite this article: John D. Morris, Ph.D. 2006. If Apes Evolved into Humans, Why Do We Still Have Apes?. Acts & Facts. 35 (11).
Life question 3. If there is a God, then why does He allow us to suffer?
Perhaps we should start by asking why have we allowed these things to happen?
God has created humanity with the ability to choose. This means that we are not forced into a relationship with Him. He allows us to reject Him and to commit other evil acts as well. He could force us to be loving. He could force us to be good.
That doesn’t mean that those who know God will escape difficult times. They won’t. When a terrorist attack causes suffering and death, those who know God will be involved in that suffering also. But there is a peace and a strength that God’s presence gives. …if we go through them while knowing God, we can react to them with a different perspective and with a strength that is not our own. No problem has the capacity to be insurmountable to God. He is bigger than all the problems that can hit us, and we are not left alone to deal with them.
Peace I leave with you, My peace I give to you; not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.”
Life question 4. Does the bible mention dinosaurs?
Yes, see Job Chapters 40 an 41, there are references to two animals that we might call dinosaurs. In Chapter 41 there is not information to draw a likeness but in chapter 40 there is just enough. See below. However, the focus of the Holy Bible is those who feature in the genealogy of Jesus Christ. Click the following link to see Matthew 1:1-24
Life question 5. National Curriculum (Key Stage 2) in Science. What should we teach our children about our origins?
The September 2014 National Curriculum (Key Stage 2) in Science, requires, for the first time, the statutory teaching of the theory of evolution to primary school pupils both in year 4 (age 8-9) then again in year 6 (age 10-11).
Alongside genuinely scientific topics like Electricity, Sound and States of Matter, which are experimentally demonstrable in the classroom, Year 4 pupils are to be taught, in a topic entitled Evolution and Inheritance that humans are merely animals. In year 6, this same topic is extended to include other contentious ideas such as “adaptation leads to evolution” and that humans “separated from other primates”. Clearly these things are not demonstrable in the classroom (or anywhere else) and should not be taught as fact alongside established and uncontested scientific subject material.
How should teachers respond to these guidelines?
They are being instructed to present the theory of evolution both as an established fact and in a non-critical way. However, this is contrary to both experimental evidence and expert scientific opinion, and also to the principles of the historic scientific method. By contrast, students need to be taught that a scientific idea or hypothesis (e.g. humans separated from primates) is very different from an observable fact established from repeatable experiments (e.g. unlike magnetic poles attract each other).
The evolutionary paradigm is based on a number of such unverified (and unverifiable) assumptions and teachers should be aware that there is a growing body of evidence contrary to the neo-Darwinian model.
The following extract is taken from Darwin, C. R. Notebook B: [Transmutation of species (1837-1838)].CUL-DAR121.- Transcribed by Kees Rookmaaker. (Darwin Online, http://darwin-online.org.uk/). See lines 3 & 4 below:
3. “…influence living beings. — We see living beings the young of living beings, become permanently changed or subject to variety, according to circumstances, — seeds of plants sown in rich soil, many kinds, are produced, though new individuals produced by buds are constant, hence we see generation here seems a means to vary, or adaptation. Again we believe (know) in course of generations even mind and instinct become influenced.
4 child of savage not civilized man. — birds rendered wild through generation acquire ideas ditto. V. Zoonomia. — There may be unknown difficulty with full grown individual with fixed organization thus being modified; — therefore generation to adapt & alter the race to changing world. — On other hand, generation destroys the effect of accidental injuries, on which if animals lived forever, would be endless”
Is it really helpful for our children to be exposed to someone like Charles Darwin who says that the English (& Europe / Caucasian) are civilised, while people of colour are savage and are more easily influenced?
Life question 6. What colour was Jesus Christ?
What colour is God?
What denomination was Jesus Christ?
God is Spirit, and those who worship Him must worship in spirit and truth. John 4:24
We know that God does not have a color.
God is Spirit and He is present everywhere.
Here are just two of many bible references:
“Am I a God who is near,” declares the LORD,
“And not a God far off “Can a man hide himself in hiding places
so I do not see him?” declares the LORD
“Do I not fill the heavens and the earth?” declares the LORD.
1 Corinthians 3:16
Do you not know that you are a temple of God
and that the Spirit of God dwells in you?
Jesus Christ was not Jewish
but He was sent to the Jews
and so just as God speaks to us in our own language,
Jesus appeared to Jews in a form that they could relate to:
But He answered and said,
“I was not sent except to the lost sheep of the house of Israel.”
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